A GOOD NAME
Agree or disagree, laugh or cry, hate or love… right is right and wrong is wrong. When a person deliberately maligns your reputation by starting vicious rumors about you to anyone who will listen, they are the one who has a problem.
Undoubtedly with malice, Phaedra repeatedly and intentionally slanders and defames me with unfounded and untrue statements. All as punitive action when she learned of my intentions to make my own fitness video. I have never been drunk a day in my life. Yet Phaedra wants everyone to believe I “drink like a fish.” Phaedra asserts that she believes I am bipolar or have a chemical imbalance. The only thing that makes me “crazy” is that I ever believed this woman was my friend. She is a malicious, despicable human being, who intentionally sought to malign my reputation and harm my future business with her debasing lies.
As a former psychology and communications major in college, if there is anyone capable of identifying mental illness or defect in others, it would be myself. Mental health has always been a passion of mine when I sought answers from my mother’s behavior toward me growing up. I once desired to become a child psychologist in order to help children who suffer from mental disorders or need therapy and or emotional support.
There are millions of people trapped in a prison in their own minds who are tortured daily and never seek or get professional help. There are those who harm others or who are a threat to themselves, or, in extreme cases, are a detriment to society and themselves and need to be institutionalized. They are often incapable of working or living a normal life. We have seen them. The unnamed, unidentified homeless people who roam the streets and talk to themselves. We have seen them speak to imaginary voices in their heads and we have felt their pain and often look on wondering what can cure them, help them, or put them out of their misery. There are people who greatly suffer from mental illness and this is no laughing matter and certainly not one to be made a mockery of with terms like “bipolar” thrown around simply to humiliate or smear an individual for revenge.
MENTAL DISEASE IS NOT A JOKE
Being bipolar is a lifelong disorder marked by great suffering from extensive depressive states that often are accompanied by suicidal thoughts most often successively followed by manic states presenting over two weeks or more. These symptoms are crippling and render the patient often unproductive or functional in daily life. I am none of the above. People have real and actual mental health issues, and I have seen the possibility of this from my own mother. I feel Phaedra’s atrocious mischaracterizations were especially cruel considering she was the only woman on the show I confided in regarding my lifelong struggles with my family regarding this. My mother literally tried to destroy me. But I’m still here and I’m thriving. And I’m not easily broken. Being emotional at times, reactionary, or angered does not make you are chemically imbalanced. It makes you human.
DON’T GET STUPID AND I WON’T GET CRAZY
I believe I have seen Phaedra’s cold black heart. From her actions alone, this is a woman who will say anything and tell any lie in order to achieve a favorable outcome for herself. This must end. I believe people can see who she really is. With me, I don’t try to hide. I keep it real. It is what it is. That being said, when people show you who they are, believe them. Phaedra is a walking, talking hypocrite. She wants to say I’m unstable, however, in actuality, she is the one who looks shady and duplicitous obviously lying to hurt me because we had a business falling out.
Yes, I am dramatic and I wanted to make a point. STOP SPREADING YOUR VINDICTIVE LIES. Business is business. I never attacked Phaedra personally. For her to go to extremes to hurt me was uncalled for. Therefore, in rare form, I let her have it plain and simple and spoke the truth, which she nor anyone else can deny. On another note, I told Nene beforehand that I was going to come to the event with a dramatic entrance and outfit, and as shocking as it was, NeNe could only laugh. Got to love a girl who can laugh. I’m done with this. Whether people agree with my methods or not, you cannot disagree with the validity of my truth and the facts.
MENTAL HEALTH HELP
I encourage anyone who has symptoms of depression, feelings of hopelessness, inability to focus, not taking pleasure in any activity or rarely feeling happy, extreme mood swings, violent behavior, loss of control, please do not feel afraid to seek professional help. You do not have to suffer alone. There is help for you. Additionally, most health insurance providers pay for counseling and medical treatment and there are non profits organizations who offer free counseling as well.
I encourage all women to watch the next episode airing February 10, 2013. This is a very important episode that I hope will empower and encourage other women and possibly save lives and cope with life-threatening issues.
Be well. Live well. Live your own truth. We only have one life. Live it to its fullest. Dance like no one is watching. And be Gone With The Wind Fabulous!