September 20, 2012 11:00 pm Bravo…
If it is me, me, me, me…then I am just going to do me too.
This week concludes the vacation that one can refer to as the “Week from Hell.” Can you imagine, given the absolutely idyllic setting we found ourselves in, that we could not just have fun together!? Well, if you thought that was possible — then you don’t know this group of ladies.
At the beginning of this episode, I learned that Aviva and Carole had planned to go on a separate double date to dinner that excluded all of the other women — including myself. To say that I was bummed to hear that is what they were doing would be an understatement. Part of the hurt comes from that fact that I left behind my family and my business to go down to St. Barths to spend time and bond with the ladies as a group. Many of you are working moms just like me, so you know the logistics that go into coordinating a trip. My husband Jon is amazing, but he is a partner in a commercial real estate firm and has heavy obligations too, so I have to work out extra time for my kids and our wonderful nanny, and then there are all the details with Yummie. It is a lot to leave for seven days on holiday and it’s the rare that I would ever even do it. The other part of my disappointment came from the fact that Aviva and Carole were my girls.
And the one-on-one time I was having with Carole was special. I agree with Carole that it does become difficult to create true friendships when you reach a certain age. I read an interesting article in the New York Times awhile back that I am reminded of and encourage you all to check out here. It touches on how we make our closest friends earlier in life. . .at college and in our 20s.
So, off we go to lunch and no time was wasted getting into it. Aviva again with her pleading for attention and desire for accolades for flying to St. Barths, it was exhausting! Where is the cool Aviva? COME BACK! The Samonja didn’t stop either with the hen pecking. The continuous reliving of the flight on the small plane sends Carole into a painful recollection of John and Caroline’s devastating crash — one that was felt around the world. And simply, just where are everyone’s manners today? I am an easy going girl when it comes to etiquette, (notice my potty mouth at the table), but this is ridiculous. Ladies, let’s just sit down and eat!?
Finally, I get up too and find Carole and Aviva getting pedicures instead of getting this lunch on already and discussing said “double date.” And at this point I am ready to throw in the towel. Rather than stick around and scream, I am out. I literally WALK home, grab my book and a towel, and go to the beach to do me, and just chillax!
Carole is always included in my plans when Russ is out of town and I am always considerate that he is often on the road. But I have had enough of this crazy tail chasing everyone is doing. I am not going to participate in this foolish game of musical chairs or any further shouting matches. I am making my point clear by opting out and it feels right to me. When Carole does come down to Saline Beach to check in on me, I am happy. I don’t like to hold onto anger and especially now with Carole. A little “adult time out” with just the two of us and a yummie seawater swim really did the trick.
I am seeing with you viewers the scene with Aviva and Sonja fighting in the kitchen for the first time tonight. Wow, isn’t it interesting how quickly a conversation can spiral out of control? And talk about spiraling out of control, our Sonja needs to get a handle on her consumption of the spirits. We all love the grape, but she is letting loose on another level so I am going to attribute some of the crazy to that, but I cannot excuse Aviva for her inability to “let the damn plane ride go!” Take the Ferry next time, girl!
We wake up on the last day to be greeted by a set up of massages, manicures, and pedicures. The royal treatment all arranged by Carole! I am in heaven! It is complete perfection on every level. We luxuriate and I ignore the drama. I am focusing on myself again today. And after all that pampering, Carole has organized a ride to the pier for sunset cocktails followed by Russ’ concert.
I missed this during the moment, but watching the episode with you, I realize that Aviva pays me the nicest compliment on the ride to the pier. We are discussing the Ramona situation, hers not mine, and she turns to me and says in reference to how I dealt with Ramona’s wrath, “You are a lot stronger than I am.” And, I just realized that maybe I am, and maybe I need to back off Aviva a little. Maybe I can just be that strong woman and let these ladies have their moments. And when the going gets too rough, I can always just do me again.
The concert was nothing short of amazing. I am only sad you guys don’t get to see it. Russ is so talented. I encourage you all to check out Russ Irwin! We arrive back at the house for our last dinner to find Sonja and Ramona doing what they love best. . .wine. LuAnn, Carole, Aviva and I sit down and basically beg those two to pull it together and come for a bite. It is our last dinner at this amazing house and despite all the ups and downs we want everyone there. After some primping and packing and overall silliness, they finally make it to the table.
We eat and then I concoct the idea to lighten the mood with a midnight, “Goodbye St. Barths” swim. So I am in first. . .followed quickly by Carole, Lu, and Aviva! Sonja. . .and let me be clear: I love this woman. . .strips down and jumps in. No one can accuse Sonja of being a party pooper that is for sure! Ramona is coming up with every reason in the book not to join in the fun so Carole and I make a plan. Carole will distract her by having her pass a drink while I go into the kitchen and wham. . .I hip check her into the big drink!! Like I said on the show, the entire trip was worth it for that moment alone! Hehe! And Ramona is a great sport. We are all like a bunch of school girls. The trip was rough and we had some highs and lows, but we ended on the highest of highs with laughter all together.
As always, thank you for all of your support and feedback. You make being on the show so rewarding for me. To learn more about me and my shapewear, go to Facebook,YummieLife.com, and HeatherThomson.net. You can also enjoy 10 percent off your next Yummie Tummie order by entering code “Iamheathert10″ at check out. Don’t forget to follow me on Twitter at @iamHeatherT and please visit DonateLife.net to sign up to become an organ and tissue donor.
Love you all,
Heather
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Holla is now the official voice of reason
I found myself thinking “crap, now I like Heather” throughout this whole St. Barts trip. I really wanted to dislike her and now I can’t even remember why!
Should have left the cra cra bat shit crazy PT back home.God she sucks the life out everywhere she goes.She can only talk about herself and her phobias.Who cares.Just because her fraudulant Reid kisses her skinny ass dont mean the rest of the world will.PT ruined everything.She needs to go!!!!
Can’t help but wonder if she was this phobia addicted, dependent and clingy woman w/ Harry….or is this the way she will prevent divorce #2 from happening: she needs Reid so much in every aspect of her life that she couldn’t survive if he left her?? Doesn’t seem normal to me to be so needy?
Agree – Aviva ruined the trip with her narcissistic behavior and screaming at everyone. She should not stay on this show. I thought Ramona was difficult, but she’s nothing compared to
Aviva.
Seriously! Ramona gets crazy but she doesn’t get nasty. Aviva was so biting and snarky. It really made rethink Ramona’s insanity. I think I’d rather have her be mad at me than Aviva… At least she doesn’t hold on to grudges.
“At least she doesn’t hold on to grudges.?
Who? Ramona?! We must be watching two different shows….
Heather truly is the voice of reason! I really appreciated how Heather and Carole had a disagreement and yet, they were both willing and able to talk it out and just move on!
I honestly believe that Carole intended to invite Heather to dinner, but did not get the chance. I can definitely understand why Carole would not want to invite Sonja and Ramona to dinner. It was Carole’s last night with Russ for a while and I am sure that she did not want all that drama and craziness!
Liked Heather better too and thought she used good judgment. But, one thing: she didn’t like it when “her girls” went off (Carole and Aviva) to get their fish pedi, so to speak, and dinner w/ their guys….but she was happy when she and Carole could spend a little time alone on the beach w/out the others. They all seem to be hardest on those they dislike and give a lot of leeway when one they like offends in the same manner, but guess we all do that.
PT’s comment about Heather being stronger may have sounded nice but I think PT was proud of herself for not playing nice with Ramonja and the comment was her way of insinuating the opposite of what she said. Put another way PT is a bitch.
Wonder if Dirty Daddy threw PT a party when she got off the Plane home? You know…. Becuz shes so scared of planes in case you havent heard.
Hate to say it,but PT is right about Sonja sinking fast. That woman is a trainwreck and I fear for her. She needs to lay off the booze/meds and realize she isn’t 25 any longer and it is uncouth to be describing what a man did to her the night before. Sloppy seconds at that…yuck!
Totally agree. Sonja needs an intervention. She is absolutely disgusting. She proves every week on tv that she is mentally ill. And romona acts like a fool.
Yep. The Lady Morgan is not in a good place emotionally. I hope she finds happiness because I really do like her. I think she’s a hoot when she’s being her lighthearted, theatrical self and I have always respected that she doesn’t allow her daughter to be filmed. But she is really out of control this season. I hated seeing her so drunk last night. It was sad.
ITA! I miss the Sonja that was the voice of reason on Scary Island! Me thinks too much ‘Turtle Time’ is hazardous for her health!
Getting drunk a few times does not mean that she needs an intervention or is mentally ill. Aviva’s mental issues have been exposed, and now she’s trying to focus attention on Sonja to make it seem like Sonja is the one who needs help. Sorry, PT, but you’re the one who needs a shrink!!
Aviva ruined the trip with her narcissistic behavior ..such a true statement. But Heather is not this great person with reason. She has the mean girl mentality not inviting Ramona on the uk trip. And the beach trip was perfect until PT got there..so adding her thief to the mix changed the dynamics. I think i kinda starting thinking Heather was creepy when she said Holla… she is over 40 right..kinda strange.
I guess I am still not sold on Heather so not willing to give her any credit yet..till she is in the hot seat and how she reacts and treats people.
I think it’s RELATIVELY speaking she is the voice of reason, this is HWs barometer
I start to like Heather more and more. She really is the voice of reason and not that big ego as the rest of the bunch (except Carole) She can tone it down and I am happy she does that too. Tells me that she is a business woman with integrity and not just a selfish fame whore who wants attention. You go Heather!
And I love that Ramona and her can get a long and have fun.
I really like Heather. I think she is starting to edge Carole out for most likable this season for me. She is laid back and mature and she has worked hard to get to where she is. Loved seeing her jump in the pool to lighten the mood! Pushing Ramona in the pool was cute.
Yeah, she really is crowing in me and levelling with Carole as my NYC fav. And I also like that she points it out in a mature way. Like she did with PT. And Carole. And doesnt hold a grunge over it for ages and ages. Classy!
Dont you just love auto correct. (…) *growing on me(…)
LOL – yes, it makes for some funny mistakes!
I liked Heather from the start. She won me over by not taking Ramona’s bs.
Heather was really enjoyabe on WWHL last night too. She seems down to earth and fun to be with.
say it every chance i get; heather and carole gangsta chic cool girls. my favs. yeahhhhh
Was Aviva given the nickname “PT” because paper towels are long, thin, and blah (boring)? It’s been keeping me up at night…
And Viva Towels soak up everything!!!!
I think it’s because there is a paper towel named Viva.
That Aviva has mental issues. What an entitled B. Does she really take herself that seriously? Granted, I would have a hard time taking Ramona and Sonja in anything but small doses, but damn woman. A party, a thank you, a congratulations? You got to the island, you didn’t cure cancer. I suppose next she will want the Nobel Peace Prize? I hope Andy puts her back where he found her.
Heather, I didn’t read the article but I certainly will, but please remember that every book, every article, every magazine, every blog is written from one person’s perspective and one person only. And that person’s perspective comes from their own personal experiences, upbringing, relationships and observations. You can never really completely apply what someone has written specifially to yourself.
You are an individual. An individual with your own unique brain chemistry, upbringing, traumas, dramas, parents, siblings, education, illnesses, deaths and other life experiences. You need not take every word that someone else writes and apply it to yourself. In fact, it’s probably best that you don’t. Take what someone has written, relate the parts that apply to you and use them wisely….to do otherwise is to be irresponsible with your own life.
If you agree with carole that your closest friendships are formed in college and in your early 20′s and that you both have that in common then kudos to you. That is based on your indvidual experiences, but others’ may be just the opposite. The friendships I formed in my early 20′s were with people that I have since reconnected and have found very little common ground with them. In fact I wonder how I became involved with them at all. My experience is the polar opposite of what you describe. The friends that I formed as I got older are the most important. (Remember also, that Carole has no children and that changes her dynamic drastically). I also didn’t attend church regularly in my 20′s and wasn’t married with children and putting them far and above myself and my needs.
No, my more recent friendships are the people that I am closest to and rely on most often. They are my true friends. They are the ones who saw me through a serious illness and would do so again in a heartbeat. We now talk more intimately….share our feelings more openly and honestly and we bring no jealousy or envy to the table. We are true, steadfast and humble. We support each other when life becomes difficult and we pick each other up and offer strengh and encouragement when necessary. We never let each other down. We are mature, strong and defend each other to the end.
There is a comfort with friends that I have now have that I never had before. There are no pretenses, no judging and no jealousy. We are what we are and accept each other for that. We embrace our differences and celebrate our similarities. I simply cannot say the same for friends I met in college.
But then I am one person expressing my point of view based on my experiences and my own personal encounters….see how that works?
My friends now are everything I want them to be. They are the friends I will grow old with and will cherish for the rest of my life. Each one is an individual; flawed yet perfect…weak yet unbreakable…strong yet fallible. These lovely women, my dear Heather, are my ‘easy’ friends….my
‘forever’ friends.
I agree with you cherry. Many girls I ran with in college are nothing more than Facebook pictures now. Back then they were all concerned with being hot and cool and finding a guy. It is much easier to befriend women now, when you are more settled and can find that you have more permanent things in common, not just who wants to go to what club when. Also, 40 years old is not near old enough to start saying things like “I already have all my “forever” friends”. Don’t close the door on new friendships, Heather! You and Sonja could end up bffs and laugh about toaster ovens one day, lol.
@kel….yes maam kel….never close the door on new friendships….I find I have a better ‘read’ on ppl now than I ever did….almost like a sixth sense…..from the losers I was with in my twenties, I have def honed my skills!
I read the article and found it interesting. I think everyone realizes that most that is written is from the author’s point of view. I have often suggested books or articles to friends. Not because I believe or subcribe to all or any of the piece, but just because I found it interesting.
As for making new friends. I don’t really have the need to make a lot of new friends, although over the years a few new friends have come along. The fact is, in my life, I have had a very busy career for many, many years. I travel a lot for business with a pleasure trip or two throughout the year. I raised three very active kids. I often found it nearly impossible to juggle everything already on my plate. I was and am happy with spending most of my free time with my family, these days,, this includes my grandchildren! I prefer to nestle in with a good book, to playing bunko with the neighborhood ladies. This is just me, we all have our preferences. We are all different. As for me, I tend to think pretty much the way that Carole and Heather expressed regarding friendships.