Season Four, Episode Eight… “Friends For Never”
Joe is a little taken aback when he is told that Teresa is building a garage for her parents. Joe’s parents have been living in a house he owns for over 10 years. We sold it last year, but they will live there until Joe finds a perfect spot to build them a new one.
Joe is the king of flipping houses. He buys and sells, buys and sells. This is what he does. Joe’s parents still live in that house, so I don’t think the garage Teresa was building was for her parents. I think the framer was confused. Teresa told me they were building a room for a nanny or an au pair, but I’m not really sure what they ended up doing with it.
When Kathy comes over to show me the magazine, I can see she is upset and hurt about it, and I understand that everyone is concerned. But I have to be honest here, if it looks like I’m not interested in talking about it, it’s because I’m not. At this point, I think that everyone has reached out to Teresa and asked her how she is doing.
She always insists she’s fine, so until she comes to us and says she is upset or scared about the bankruptcy or Joe’s possible “going away,” I am going to react to what Teresa says to me and not what I read in a magazine. On the outside, it seems that things are good — a new carport, new closets, a new garage/apartment, and new furniture in the house — no signs of anything being wrong.
Even during her fight with Jacqueline, Teresa says everything is fine and she laughs. I don’t want to seem like I’m disregarding why Jacqueline is upset, I do understand that Jacqueline is looking for a true, open, and honest friendship. But until she decides she wants to talk, I have to respond to what she says, and she says everything is fine.
As far as the Danielle situation goes, I addressed it in my last blog and I don’t want to give too much away for the next episode. You will see what happens. I think we might also get an answer on whether or not Joe and Teresa go to therapy. Do you think they should?
“As far as Teresa’s bankruptcy goes, Teresa was right when she said that declaring bankruptcy does not mean that your life ends and you should go crawl up in a hole and die. You are allowed to start your life again. Did it appear to anyone as if Teresa was really afraid of being poor? There seemed to be no shortage of money to me. I knew Teresa worked hard, but I also knew the bankruptcy had not been approved and there were some crazy stories in the press going around about her that worried me.
I was trying my best not to judge some of their lifestyle choices during that time, although I do admit, at times it was very hard not to. It is especially hard to avoid staying out of each other’s business during filming, because we’re together so much. I was very confused at the time, because I was reading one thing in the tabloids about her life and then I was seeing something completely different in the way she was living in her real life.
As a friend, I was really worried about what was going to happen to her and her family. I was also upset from reading about her life in the tabloids along with the rest of America instead of my “best friend” opening up to me about what was really going on so that I could be there for her. Even if she didn’t need me, at least she could help to ease my mind.
She did share with me some of the stories she wanted to put out there about herself, but when new stories came out in the tabloids, I didn’t know anymore what was true or what was not true. I didn’t want to pry into her business by asking her about them, but at the same time, I wanted to know because she was my friend. I cared about her and everyone else in America was reading these tabloids and talking about it while I knew nothing. It was crazy that she would talk to the tabloids but not her “best friend” or family about her life. How would you all feel? Really think about that. I was supposed to be her best friend, you’d think she would mention them to me. It never seemed to occur to her that I was worrying sick about her. How could she expect everyone to ignore it? How could she not think about addressing it with us or be offended if we asked any questions about it, especially if the articles mentioned one of us? It was like a hit and run.
I was wondering if Teresa was just profiting from people’s pity by benefiting from a big media scam while she was really living the high life or was my friend really in trouble, denying it to herself, suffering in silence and getting deeper in debt. I was starting to not respect her choices, and I really felt like I didn’t know who she was anymore. I felt like I was always trying to justify her actions to everyone. So much about her life was being fabricated, so I had no idea what was real anymore. From what I was hearing from some of our mutual friends, I was starting to question whether or not our friendship was even real or if she just needed me as an ally on the show. I heard she wasn’t pleased with me because I wasn’t joining her army in her fight against her family. Who in their right mind would help her fight her family, especially when we all had to work together? A true friend would help bring them back together. A true friend would never expect me to harm her family and start another war between them.
As far as the fight on the deck, please take note that before Caroline showed up, Teresa and I were going back and forth for 5 long hours! I was exhausted at that point. I had NO IDEA that Caroline was going to show up. It was not meant to be an ambush at all, although I do understand how it must have felt to Teresa. I felt like I needed to get her to open her eyes to the reality of certain situations she was creating, and I wanted her to be real with me for once and for all to my face. I wanted all my questions answered. I couldn’t take it anymore. There were a lot of things said on the deck that day that you didn’t see. What’s important and all that matters is that Teresa and I know what was said and all you need to know was that it was the turning point in our relationship.
You can always go back to my Season 3 blog An Eye Opener (pages 9 and 10) to understand a little more about the point I was trying to make to Teresa about her responding to Danielle’s tweet. She was off our show and out of all of our lives. I could not be upset, however, if Teresa changed her mind and wanted to be friendly with Danielle again, but I wanted her to notice that she doesn’t play by her own rules. I would never fault her for being anyone’s friend that I am not friendly with, because my battles are my own to fight. I actually prefer it that way. If you agree with me about someone, then that is a bonus. What annoyed me was that Teresa had been trying to fault me for being friendly with Danielle, when Danielle had issues with my family all while Teresa had been friendly with her as well, until she did things to offend HER personally. The truth is that Teresa didn’t shun Danielle for me or my family like she tried to make it seem, but she shunned her for things that Danielle did and said about her personally. Teresa considered it disloyal for me, but yet it’s OK for her to want to be friendly with Danielle when it benefited her.
NOTE: Jax had much more to say… click on her name above!
Let’s talk about Lauren. I’m not sure how many of you have seen a photo of her lately, but she looks amazing. More importantly, she feels great and is finally comfortable in her own skin. I’m very proud of her for putting her story out there; it’s not easy showing the world your vulnerabilities and insecurities, especially at 23 years old. Just to give you an update, Lauren lost 14 pounds on the Perricone diet. Her skin glowed and she felt great, but her lifestyle made it difficult and her young mind started to defy the process.
With that she decided to go on a healthy diet as recommended in Dr. Perricone’s books, that lasted for a while, but as always the struggle started to affect her personality and she fell into a depression. We spent the summer trying to boost her spirits and get her on the right track, but nothing seemed to work. She hated everyone, everything, and most heartbreaking of all, herself.
She was in the hospital twice for panic attacks, and twice for extreme blood pressure levels. Lauren had a complete meltdown while we were camping in California that scared the hell out of us. Al and I decided that we needed to take drastic measures and we suggested to Lauren that she get lap band surgery.
We broached the subject once before and she shot us down, insisting that she could take the weight off herself. This time she listened and said she would go see Al’s doctor. We learned that Lauren’s BMI was categorized as obese. This along with her weight fluctuations with yo-yo dieting as well as blood pressure issues put her health at risk.
Lauren went and had the surgery this past September AFTER we finished filming for the season. She lost 20 pounds over seven months and decided that she wanted to loosen the band and try to lose the rest through diet and exercise. She did so in May and has since lost another 10 pounds. She wakes up every morning and meets her trainer at the gym and works out for two hours straight; he also put her on a healthy diet that has now become a lifestyle for her and she’s happy. I think knowing that the band is there and she has a “back up” system to go to gives her the security she needs to reach her goals. Lauren has finally learned to love herself, and we couldn’t be happier. We finally got out little girl back. Love you, LaLa. xoxoxo
I have one simple request and that’s to stop the hate and arguing on social media sites. The show is meant to entertain, not cause World War III.
NOTE: Lauren lost 20 lbs in SEVEN MONTHS! With a lap band installed??? Dat girl is still eatin’ pastrami and provolone sandwiches…
Note to DonCaro…