This week’s episode is one that I wished had never happened. I actually have not watched this episode and most likely will never. I have just returned from my daughter’s destination wedding, and I am still on “happy thoughts.” This episode tonight featured a strong exchange between Briana and myself, which was painful when it happened and I don’t know if I am ready to re-live it again.
My children are my driving force and my reason, actually, for my own success. I want everything for them, and I want them to have everything I never had. Isn’t that what all parents want? As parents, we (even I) do not always get what we want at all. Every parent that is divorced and enters the dating world will come across resistance from their children. This is inevitable. No one can hurt you more than your children, and Briana said some things to me that were shocking, but also painful. I have come to realize over the last couple of months, that Briana is still processing my separation from Donn and most likely her biological father. As you saw, this week my daughter and I hit a wall full speed ahead and it hurt. It hurt bad!
What you didn’t see is I left her home in tears, and just sat in the street and prayed, cried, and prayed some more. I realized it was not the end of the world if my daughter does not like the man I am dating.
I say dating — because Brooks and I are “dating.” We are not living together. We are taking our relationship slow. We enjoy spending time together. We haven’t comingled any finances (nor do I ever plan to), and I sure the heck am not ready for marriage or even an engagement. I’m taking the relationship for what it is, which is two grown people who love and respect each other. I’m dating Brooks because he makes me extremely happy, doesn’t lie to me, and is treating me with the respect and love that I deserve. That’s it.
If you would have heard my entire and complete toast, you would have heard me say that this party was not about all the frill and fluff, it was about celebrating two amazingly strong, healthy princesses who had a very difficult entrance into this world. Not a single day goes by that I don’t thank God for what he gave us. When I think about how easily we could have lost either one of our girls, or myself, it puts a lump in my throat.
And not only did I not lose them, but they are healthy and truly growing into good-hearted people. I’m also grateful that the Lord shined his light on me as well during the time. I too may not have made it. It’s not that uncommon to have a pulmonary embolism during a pregnancy of multiples, but that doesn’t make it any less scary! Lo and behold, all three of us pulled through! Thank you God! NOTE: Who gives a “toast” at a party for four-year-olds??? Oh yeah…. Alexass does. Wouldn’t you LOVE to hear the unedited version???
“I’ve had the big diamonds, big houses, fancy cars, etc. Of course, I would be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy that lifestyle, but I have definitely learned that lifestyle isn’t ultimately what make me happy. What makes me truly happy is that I have a man who loves and adores me, protects me, builds me up when I am down, is the calm in my storm, and makes me feel like the most important person in the world every second of the day. Our love is the kind of love I have dreamed of having since I was a little girl. It’s the kind of love I have prayed for my whole life; a love that fulfilled me emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. God finally answered my prayers when he gave me Slade.
March 29, 2012
Now, I’m sure all your jaws dropped when Slade asked Gabe at Newport Jewelers if he could get a CZ stone until he could afford the real thing, but the truth is once I thought about it I realized it was very sweet and showed his vulnerability. He wants to get me a beautiful ring, but knows he just can’t right now. That is hard on a man’s ego no matter what way you slice it. I’m so proud of the fact that he is not just pretending to be someone he is not; it’s a very brave thing to admit on national television. Slade is working so hard right now to get out of debt and working multiple jobs to do so.”
“…I also had a hard time with fact that Simon had moved in with his girlfriend (who the kids love) and when he had the kids she would pick them up from school. Sharing custody is one of the many struggles of divorce. I want to be the one picking up my kids every single day from school. I want to tuck them in to bed every night. I just don’t have that option anymore, and it took me a long time to get over the pain. . . I’m still struggling with it. I wasn’t lashing out at Simon for being happy and moving on, and NO his girlfriend is not half his age — just much younger. I just couldn’t understand how it was so easy for him to move on and so hard for me. After all, I wanted this divorce. I often wonder, do the strong people stay in an unhappy marriages or is it the strong ones that leave?
Eddie is an amazing man and has helped me with my divorce every step of the way. He is so kind, considerate, and thoughtful. He makes an effort to make my children feel like they are loved by him every day. Eddie grew up without his father, and his mother bounced in and out of his life. He understands more than anyone what its like to come from a broken home. He told me today “Babe stop worrying, all these kids need is love and support. They will adapt to all the change.” I just don’t understand how I got so lucky.
We now live together as a family, and nothing makes me love him more than to see him and the kids running around the house being goofy. I know in my heart that I’m in such a good place, but at times I feel guilty for being so blessed. The past two and half years have been the most difficult and rewarding time in my life.”
Yes, Gretchen God answered your prayers and gave you a deadbeat dad to fall in love with & make excuses.
[extreme eye roll]
Give me a f*cking break, if he can NOT BE THERE FOR an ill son emotionally, physically & financially, he can do it to anyone who comes out of Gretchen’s womb. Doesn’t any potential child deserve a responsible decent father.
it’s one thing to discover a mate isn’t a loving or responsible parent, but when you have the future staring you in the face…..
I could not believe Alexis toast at the birthday party. First – who does that. Second the toast was all about her trauma and complications of giving birth. Third who wants to hear all of that at a birthday party.
Did anyone else notice the visible reactions (body language, facial expressions, etc.) on the part of the adult guests during various segments of the b’day party. Those segments included Alexass’ toast, her announcement of the availability of the poor puppies she hired for the day, etc. The reactions were priceless! They included physical manifestations of disgust, incredulity, skepticism, amazement (not the good kind,), wonder, (as in “I wonder where the door is, so I can take my kids out of this crazy house!”) disdain and repugnance. And these were friends and family, supposedly. If you want a birthday party so YOU can be a princess, Alexass, then throw YOURSELF a birthday party.
Can she spell narcissistic!!!
And her statement that “the party had alot more formality, but once you throw kids in the mix that has to go out the window”. – Yeah, including the children and their friends to their own birthday party always messes things up for who it should always be about…..ME!
i hope what briana revealed last night will cost vickie major bucks and she ends up having to pay spousal support? i sure hope so
Me too! Briana told Vicki the truth and what she needed to hear. I just hope Vicki sees one day everything she is going through with having to defend her relationship is EXACTLY what she has put others through. Vicki is such a terrible person. WE don’t care that you cried Vicki. All you do is cry and bash others. Take your puffyness and your gross *boyfriend* and go away!! BTW who tells their child to bring it on?
The fact that Crooks is driving Vicki’s car tells me all I need to know about him. This is a pet-peeve of mine.
I don’t believe that Crooks is staying at a hotel at Vikki’s expense. I think that he stays at her house, drives her car, eats her food and wears what she buys him. If I were Don I’d be a royal pain in the butt about that. I know I made my ex pay back every penny he spent on his other women. It wasn’t his money to give away. It wasn’t my problem he had to pay for his company!
Exactly. Ya know what burns my britches about situations like this… specially the driving of the car or the manning of the grill in the back yard of a house that he didint buy?…its like why bother with the subterfuge of letting him play-act at being the man… eva body knows what the real deal is and its uncomfortably embarrassing to witness. If a grown man has to move into his woman’s husband’s house then he might as well castrate himself as far as I am concerned.
Why am I not surprised that castration is what is called for. Gotta love ya!
lol. Perhaps I am being just a wee bit extreme.
I think Vicki does a good job of emasculating her men….I think that’s what happened with don
she seems to do that to everyone in her life.
Good point. So why is she letting Crooks dry her car? Why not stick him in the back in a car seat?
Drive her car. KimG does it with that maggot guy. Wretchen does that with Slimey guy. And Vicki does that with Crooks. It aint foolin nobody so why bother.
lol…good point
and enough with the daily cards that he probably buys with Vicki’s money anyway. That’s like Slade trying to front like he’s going to pay for Gretchen’s ring himself. Please! If they keep this up their love tank and bank accounts are all gonna be empty!
And the supplemental affirmation texts are prolly also sent on a phone she bought too. She might as well send them to herself.
they are all nuts; for different reasons. but all resolves around the men in their lives. stupid is as
stupid does.
Why do I get the feeling that when Alexis’ girls go thru that teenage stage she will be pulling out that “I almost died having you!!” card
LOL
I think I’ll use that one next time I leave a message for my daughter lol
Sweet he asked to have the rock replaced? Wetchen you must be on prescription medication. Might as well give you a ring right out of a Cracker Jack box He’s pathetic. I cannot believe this man cannot find a job, no matter how bad the economy is. I won’t even touch Alexbimbo. There are no words for Alexbimbo…lab experiment comes to mind but I won’t go there.
About Alexis’ princess puppy party… Did you see the looks on the parent’s faces when she announced that those kids needed to ask their parents to adopt a puppy? Oh I would’ve been pis$ed! You think you’re taking your kid to a fun lil party when bam; hidden agenda slaps you in the face and she’s dressed like a slutty princess talking about her birth story. Oh and btw, take a puppy!
pretty presumptive of her….especially when she wasn’t willing to adopt one herself…wrong!
Right? She will throw another baby in the mix, but she’s iffy on a puppy. She’s full of it.
just think of their poor goldfish that died within a few weeks from not being fed. all it took was a few sprinkles of flakes, too.
How about it! Talk about put them on the spot – when my daughter was that age if you even mentioned an ice cream cone she didn’t let the idea go and to a child “please adopt a puppy” is like saying “you can have a puppy sweetie if you want” I can not imagine that car ride home lol
One thing that I have a hard time with is Vicki saying they are taking their relationship slow. Brooks just relocated to the west coast and I’m pretty sure he is still married to HIS wife, just like Vicki is still married to Donn. It’s just sad how some people can live in a land of make believe…
That first clip was difficult to watch. Weird to say “bring it on” to your daughter and then psycho screams at her…yeh…not good
When Briana mentioned to her “you don’t even have a clue how much I know” makes me wonder what the heck will pop up about this dude or along with finding the secret love email exchanges she found something else really disturbing
I think Briana reads Stoopid Housewives, and that’s how she knows what’s really going on.
Slade in ok with looking like a cheap bastard on camera as long as it helps him from exposing any funds he may have and keeping his child support at bay.
I liked the look on the jeweler’s face when Slade said “let me go see what money I can put together..”. You know he was thinking what a waste of his time that all was. And if Slade can put money together, shouldn’t he take that money and pay it towards child support? Isn’t purchasing luxury items like jewelry a crime when you have liens against you? Even spending a few grand on a ring when you owe that much to your ill child is inexcusable.
Brianna is pretty much my favorite person on the show. Ever since Vicki was badgering her about not letting anyone buy her drinks in Vegas because of the date rape drug and Brianna responded with “But roofie-coladas are my favorite”. HEE. I would probably have eloped too if I had Vicki “It’s all about me, Brianna, Brianna, Brianna” as my mother. After all, Brianna’s cancer scare was much harder on Vicki, she said so herself. She couldn’t even let her daughter rest after the surgery because she cares more about looking like a super-caring mother for the cameras than letting her recover. And there have been rumors that Brooks has been in the picture a long, long time, and I like that she busted her for it, because Vicki is a gigantic hypocrate and she herself opened the door by going after her son-in-law’s reputation, especially since Brooks is so sketchy. She sure shut Vicki up.